I haven't been participating on the forum for several reasons, and a big one was that this thread here was the one I most wanted to read and have fun in. But I also very strongly suspected that it would upset me to no end... See, my son is autistic. Very high intelligence, quite severe autism. Since I'd read in the comments that people had been discussing on the forum the possibility of Lalli being autistic, I was horribly afraid I'd find upsetting things. I was right
Autism is a radically over-diagnosed condition. A cousin of mine is "autistic" but is clear as day just an introvert who doesn't want to argue with the doctor (or her family). A therapist discussed it (overdiagnosis in general, not that particular case) at Salon:
http://www.salon.com/2013/09/21/thats_not_autism_its_simply_a_brainy_introverted_boy/
Huh. HUH. I'll be frank: that article is a steaming pile of horse manure. The boy described in it is so CLEARLY autistic, it's not even funny. The REAL problem here is not the oh-so-horrible-and-limiting label of "autism" being imposed on the kid; it's the article author's opinion that autism is such a *horrible and limiting* label to begin with! His level of ignorance about what autism IS, and HOW it manifests, is truly horrifying for someone pretending to correct people's misconceptions about autism O.o So yeah, please don't base your "knowledge" of autism on that article, because it's so, so, SO wrong about autism that it's shameful it was published in the first place.
If you expect someone to behave in an autistic way and reward them for doing so you will gradually nudge them into a fascimile of the disorder without any actual disorder being extant.
Nonsense. A kid can't fake being autistic. That's beyond ridiculous; it's offensive. You can fake specific autistic behaviours, but you can't fake BEING autistic - or at least not without it taking the same kind of EXTREME toll on your mind and body that faking NOT being autistic takes on autistic people.
*takes deep breath to calm down*
Personally: do I think Lalli is autistic? I wasn't sure for most of my reading, even though each new development, no matter how big or small, pointed to it. And then he outright shut down when Tuuri bullied him too much (
http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=383 ), and Tuuri's comment clearly implied it was a reaction he had often enough when he was overwhelmed, and I went, "Yep, autistic freakout all right."
That said, I don't care whether people think Lalli is autistic or not. Minna herself has said that she wants people to be free to interpret him however they want, and the least I can do is respect her wishes! I *do*, however, care very much about which arguments are used to counter the possibility that he's autistic. Like for example:
It is not an instinctive reaction, I agree. Which is why it's so interesting that he does it... he extrapolated that Emil cares about the state of hair from way back when Emil smoothed Lalli's hair down. I think he really was doing what he thought was appropriate in the situation, which is indicative of normal empathy levels, given that he wasn't unsettled at all and probably felt like Emil was making a big deal over nothing. Is it normal? No. The important thing is that it indicates Lalli has the capacity to recognize distress, the desire to alleviate it, and the ability to decide upon a course of action given previous interactions. The fact that it was not a typical (appropriate is disputable) response is irrelevant: the processes needed to lead to the response are very typical.
I'm not sure I understand this correctly, but it sounds like you're saying that simply having those processes, and that level of empathy, are enough to deny the possibility of autism? In which case: no, absolutely not. Autistic people possess those processes just like most other human beings (it's psychopaths and narcissists* who lack one of them, namely "the desire to alleviate distress"), and if anything, they tend to be *more* empathetic than neurotypical people. The problem is that they often don't know how or when to properly use those processes, and even more importantly: they often have much bigger troubles obtaining the data to input into those processes in the first place, because this part depends on using social skills which neurotypical people learn naturally as they develop, but autistic people don't. Simply put, this means that an autistic person might very well not recognise that (for example) you're feeling down from the subtle behavioural clues you're giving off, but if/once they do become aware of it, they WILL care, and they WILL want to help - but they might have no idea how to do that if they don't know you well enough, or they might do it in a way that looks crazy/stupid/inappropriate/offensive to you.
* Autism is pretty much the antithesis of psychopathy, and I can't help but get hurt when people attribute psychopathic traits to autism :/
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A couple other unrelated comments:
Correct. And there's a very thin line between narcissism and psychopathy. The most recent DSM threw out those terms altogether (I believe), replacing them with the much more sensible "antisocial personality disorder" *is studying psychology as a Year 12 elective subject*.
No, it doesn't. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is still its own thing in the DSM 5. And it's been a LONG time since "psychopathy" has been 'replaced' by Antisocial Personality Disorder; that's absolutely not something new in the DSM 5. Oh, and no, there isn't a "very thin line" between narcissism and psychopathy: the two have major overlapping elements, that much is true, but they also have major differences.
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But... how do we know that they don't talk? The thing is, comics is a very static medium. You can't depict everything that's going on at any given moment, otherwise the page will get very crowded and hard to follow. And just because we don't see something happening (tuuri and lalli talking somewhere off-panel) doesn't mean it's not actually happening.
We know for sure now, since Tuuri herself told us:
http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=374 . Minna even comments: "Tuuri has nothing to worry about here, she may not have noticed but Emil's been making sure Lalli has gotten all the socializing he needs this last week. He's probably all set for the next year or so on that front." From the sound of it, and even though I guess Minna was joking a bit, it sounds like Lalli got extremely little socialising back in Keuruu *even from his cousins*, if Emil's socialising is supposed to be so much more than he's used to