I just noticed that the forum censors the B-word. (5-letter word for "female dog." Can I say "bee-yotch"?)
At the risk of being called a beeyotch, I'd be OK with letting that word be used. I used it in a PM to someone saying, "I hope I don't sound b****-y." Instead, the software censored the whole word, so it was "*****y." In a way, that was worse -- those asterisks could stand for ANYTHING...!
In fact, is it possible to set looser standards for PMs vs. forum posts? Prissy as I am about our level of public discourse, I'm OK with consenting forum-ites using whatever language they want in one-to-one messages.
On second thought, I guess that would open the door to someone unilaterally using bad language on someone else in a PM. But none of us would do that, would we?