So it wasn't too bad. The hurt is not to be undone, but at least we can cope in a way, the children are not affected by. there will be plenty of time to think this over during the next few weeks and finally she has to decide how much hurt I can do to her. It is not just what people say to us, what hurts, but the way we interpret the message. She decided to hear only the attack while I wasn't able to express the fears lying beneath what I was saying. I fear, I'll be thinking this over and over again during the next days but maybe I'll manage to find the right words after the holydays by then.
For all the bad the situation had, there is some positive things to say:
Bot of us, me and her, are able to behave like adults, for we get our work done together,
Neither wants the other harm.
And what can be better to know how those situations work, then facing this during a point in your live, were many changes will await me?
Also my boyfriend does not pamper me, but acts caring while he forces me to take responsibility for what is to come.
Though this helps a lot, I will deafen my brain with learning languages for the next hour.