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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #45 on: November 13, 2021, 05:13:52 AM »
This re-read discussion has been eye-opening for me. I didn’t read ARtD before I was well and truly a part of the SSSS fandom, although I of course kept seeing the encouragement to do so and even included it in the vote reminders. So, when I finally did, I was disappointed and especially I was puzzled.

There was this obnoxious person complaining through a story with some interesting ideas and occasionally very great art, but there was nothing for me to identify with or to feel for. And everyone else seemed happy with it. I am glad to see especially you, catbirds, wonder so openly about how much you liked it. Teenagers are probably much more likely to identify with Hannu, as being self-centered and confrontational goes with the age (sorry any current teenagers reading this, but it’s true! Science! Plus it’s an important phase in development of one’s personality). Actually Hannu would work a lot better if he were, say, 16. For a 24-year-old it’s surprising everyone else seems to put up with it.

Also that Oona girl is scary! Actually small children can hurt animals badly by accident, but he doesn’t look small enough for that! And it’s even shown that she does it on purpose and knows it’s wrong. She is not shaping up to become a nice person.

Finally, the commentary about wasn’t Ville smaller before is a nice touch, an actual fun bit of fun for a change.
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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #46 on: November 13, 2021, 03:38:41 PM »
Somewhere in the comments a bit further on (but I don't think this is a spoiler) I picked up on the information that Minna was herself in high school when she wrote this.

Now some teenagers write very adult work; I'm not saying that just because somebody's still in their teens they can't do so. But it does cast some possible light on some of the negatives about this work; and in particular maybe on Hannu's immaturity.

I also find myself wondering whether Minna had, or was fighting not to have, some form of anorexia at the time. But she may just have been hanging out with the sort of high school crowd for which going on about whether somebody (often even including themselves) is "fat" is a near-obsessive form of conversation.

None of that makes all of these negatives all right; but might be another reason for the improvement between this and SSSS; which does indeed still have signs of some of the unpleasantless, but manages to produce a number of sympathetic characters; including Turri, who shuts down an early fat joke with such vehemence that IIRC she doesn't get any more of them, even from the same people. (She's rather nasty herself in the way in which she does it, but overall she's IMO definitely a sympathetic character.)

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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #47 on: November 13, 2021, 11:14:05 PM »
Yeah, because Minna is a genius and made good use of her brilliance we tend to forget how very young she was when she began these projects, and indeed how young she still is (though I must admit that from the perspective of old age, most people look pretty young). Cut the kid some slack! Maturation can still happen.
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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #48 on: November 14, 2021, 12:34:02 AM »
W...ell. I wouldn't exactly call 18/19 years old a kid. She started it in her first year of university, and I'm in my second year now. But then again it's unfair to say we'll all mature at the same age, and I've seen far older people come up with absolutely vile themes. To be honest, I don't even consider myself mature, just a little less of the Angry Loner Teenager sort that I was kind of like a few years ago?

It's definitely not worth it spending the entire time treating it like this is what Minna will be like forever. It's clear she's changed. But also personally I don't think her sense of humour has gotten to any point that is not offensive. And I don't think that with LP she changed for the better, but that's up to personal interpretation I guess?

Anyway, it eases my mind a little bit that Minna's explicitly stated that she wasn't interested in putting serious themes in her work. A Redtail's Dream is still nostalgic for me even if it hasn't aged well, but I wouldn't take it as some essential, monumental work of art that changed our lives forever.

I also find myself wondering whether Minna had, or was fighting not to have, some form of anorexia at the time. But she may just have been hanging out with the sort of high school crowd for which going on about whether somebody (often even including themselves) is "fat" is a near-obsessive form of conversation.

In all likelihood? Yeah, probably. Definitely one of my least favourite things about high school was that making fun of yourself was the only way to be socially safe sometimes. But I don't know enough about Minna to speak about her experiences and I wouldn't ever assume anything about it. Also, it's interesting that Hannu is six years older than Minna was at the time. I used to make OCs who were like, eighteen, thinking, wow, a mature adult! The most recent one is 23. I don't think I need to explain why that's at the very least inaccurate. Hannu's very clearly an overly immature adult, which is definitely one of the downsides of writing a character older than you. The same applies for the entire village, actually.

I am glad to see especially you, catbirds, wonder so openly about how much you liked it. Teenagers are probably much more likely to identify with Hannu, as being self-centered and confrontational goes with the age (sorry any current teenagers reading this, but it’s true! Science! Plus it’s an important phase in development of one’s personality). Actually Hannu would work a lot better if he were, say, 16. For a 24-year-old it’s surprising everyone else seems to put up with it.

Also that Oona girl is scary! Actually small children can hurt animals badly by accident, but he doesn’t look small enough for that! And it’s even shown that she does it on purpose and knows it’s wrong. She is not shaping up to become a nice person.

Hmmmm I feel like there's somewhat of a stigma on teenagers with the whole belief that they're self-interested to the extreme and overly confrontational, as some kind confirmation bias since you probably only notice the self-centred and confrontational teenagers, but also I'm contradicting myself by claiming that because I definitely was self-centred a few years ago. Then again, though, being self-centred isn't exclusively a teenage thing.

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I do know exactly what it is about the story that stuck with me, and while Hannu was the Thing About It that I liked when I was 17 ish? The thing that really clung to me after it all was the confrontation with death and the abyss and being on the edge of reality. But then there's the other part which is "Ew, I sure did admire this terrible guy!" which does make me wonder what was going through my mind.


I kind of forgot where I was going with this. I guess life gets complicated in your teen years and the social pressure is a lot, sometimes some people will deliberately trample on you and in my case I dealt with that by being a loner and indulging in whatever aRTD is, even though Hannu probably wouldn't have been a nice kid in high school either.

And yeah, Oona definitely knows what she's doing. Pretty much all the kids in this village are at each other's necks.

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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #49 on: November 14, 2021, 06:01:07 AM »
I missed a lot of the angsty teenager phase, I think, both because I had a lot of what most people would nowadays consider adult responsibilities from late childhood on, and because until my midteens I didn’t live anywhere with enough people to have anything like a high school. However, I found that the combination of homeschooling, tutors and distance education (which in those days was by post or later by radio because the internet was not yet invented and computers were barely a thing, PCs were certainly not yet invented!) had been enough to let me get into the last few years of high school and later into university with academic scholarships. Otherwise my folks could never have afforded tertiary education, which back then was a lot harder for women to get into anyway. But the result was that I missed/mercifully avoided a lot of the teenaged angst stuff, and that makes it harder to understand the whole social pattern. Sure, the local kids tell me their troubles, but it still seems really alien and weird to me.

And as to older people coming up with equally weird and vile themes: yeah, that happens, sadly. I haven’t seen it so much in my generation, since most people in their 80s have lived through enough real-world trouble to make them a bit more open and tolerant unless they have been really spoiled and sheltered, but the post-war generation seems more inclined to nastiness, especially the men, who were definitely more spoiled and sheltered in the aftermath of WW2, where so many boys were lost.
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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #50 on: November 14, 2021, 08:22:27 AM »
an interesting take on what dogs want. But when I was a child, and we had Old English Sheepdogs, they definitely didn't want me to ride them.
It might have to do with the fact that so many dogs today are "mere pets", rather than literal work dogs bred for obedience. Children "riding" a dog seems to have been more common some time ago (including yours truly, though I don't remember any of that myself).
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Maybe Ville could've been a seal with legs or a… frog or an otter?
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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #51 on: November 14, 2021, 11:30:52 AM »
JoB, I can’t recall any seal deity or other significant entity specifically in Finland, but then again I’m not an expert. Over the wider Finnic-Baltic culture there probably are some seal mythologies as some of the peoples were seal hunters.

Catbirds, it really is Science! Studies have shown that for example the mental capacity for empathy diminishes during puberty, although it of course returns later and develops further. And the confrontations are required to break free of the symbiotic relationship with the caregivers, most typically parents, but it reflects wider. So, it’s not only confirmation bias, the stereotype based on facts :)
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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #52 on: November 14, 2021, 11:41:25 AM »
W...ell. I wouldn't exactly call 18/19 years old a kid. She started it in her first year of university

Maybe I misinterpreted something. I thought I saw something in the comments in which she said she was still in high school; but maybe I misunderstood terminology that's different than in the USA. I don't remember what page it was on; if I come across it again, maybe I'll quote it here and people can sort it out for me.

I don't know enough about Minna to speak about her experiences and I wouldn't ever assume anything about it.

Oh, definitely. I was only making possible guesses; didn't mean to imply that there was anything definite about them.

I feel like there's somewhat of a stigma on teenagers with the whole belief that they're self-interested to the extreme and overly confrontational, as some kind confirmation bias since you probably only notice the self-centred and confrontational teenagers

Sorry if it came off like that! I know and have known teenagers who aren't/weren't like that at all. Like most other things about humans, it varies considerably. I meant more that some people who are like that as teenagers are not like that when they're older; though some take longer to grow out of it than others, some never do, and some people actually become more like that as they get older.

And there are, in some schools, student social groupings which are like that, and which reinforce that behavior in their members. ARTD seems to me at some points to be seeing Hannu's whole town as like that.

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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #53 on: November 14, 2021, 01:38:22 PM »
-- JoB, your link won't load for me, and tells me that it's because my browser's not up to date, and offers me what it says are links to updated browsers. I'm using an entirely updated version of Firefox; just doublechecked. It's possible that the link's reacting to a selective script blocker that I'm running, but what that usually gets me if it's breaking a site is a notice to turn Javascript on; so I don't know whether something's weird about the site you're linking to and it's trying to get me to download something that's not legitimately one of those browsers.
Never mind; apart from a number of comments that don't really add anything, it's a bunch of B+W photos showing kids riding (large-ish) dogs, complete with clearly not-in-our-times kids' clothing.

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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #54 on: November 14, 2021, 08:51:21 PM »
I have certainly seen children riding big dogs, including the tiny daughter of a friend who likes large dogs riding one of her mother’s malemutes, with both parties clearly enjoying the game. And certainly in England as recently as last century dog carts were a thing, with one or two big dogs in a simple harness drawing a light wicker cart (made of the same stuff as cane baskets) with a small child playing at driving. That tended to be a British upper class child’s amusement.

JoB, I couldn’t see your pictures either, but in my case the link wanted me to sign up to a website to view them.

And thorny, I too have known a number of empathetic teenagers. I think their being like that is a mixture of nature and nurture - the kids I am closest to at present whom I would call really empathetic are all the offspring of parents who are that way, and live in environments where such attitudes are encouraged. It is not surprising that many of them are kids whom I have met through community projects such as the recycling centre, community garden and riverbank cleanups. There is something in the ‘me, me, me’ culture that discourages empathy.
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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #55 on: November 19, 2021, 08:14:53 PM »
Today's the day for (the start of the week of the discussion for) Chapter 4, up to page 226!

I'm so late this time! It's close to the end of the semester so school's starting to get really busy, but once it's over, I want to do a more detailed analysis or almost-essay of the going-ons in this story.

I think this is the part where most readers might start to think the story will make an actual attempt at making Hannu learn a lesson, which, y'know, doesn't turn out to be the case. When that part comes, it'll be obvious.

Some parts of this chapter are a little funny, but also that's because Hannu's just being really rude. If he said most of these things to a real person in the real world, he'd get a smack in the face. Not to mention that I don't think Hannu would be very well-liked if he were in a larger town, but also everyone hates everyone else here so... Oh WellTM.

The moose is pretty interesting. Yup. Though I tried to find an equivalent in whatever's available on the English internet, and I couldn't find any mention of Hiisi who were so malevolent, unless you count the post-Christian-contact ones. I'll chalk that up to creative liberty or maybe the Terrible Fox Child just really wants the humans in the dream to have a bad time. Who dreams of problems they can cause humans, anyway? Also, the design of the moose is pretty underwhelming from a distance... it really is just a moose made of wood, the horror probably comes from the fact that it's trying to kill them.

Jouko's a pretty decent character, too. He's probably the only one I can tolerate so far, mostly because he does try smacking (or flicking) some sense into Hannu. Well, I mean, I hope he didn't do that when Hannu was younger, but Hannu's an adult and probably needs someone to smack some sense and existential awareness into him. And Mr. Moose is alright, too.

Well, that's all I can think of so far! Great art, though I wonder if Minna got tired of purple by around this point.

Maybe I misinterpreted something. I thought I saw something in the comments in which she said she was still in high school; but maybe I misunderstood terminology that's different than in the USA. I don't remember what page it was on; if I come across it again, maybe I'll quote it here and people can sort it out for me.

Meeeeeeh, I honestly don't think it makes much of a difference. Here in North America and maybe, maybe, also in many cultures, we're too used to our life stages all being approximately the same. Really, you're not a totally different person the moment you get out of high school. Being 19 instead of 18 or 17 doesn't make that much of a difference unless it's coincidentally a year in which LOTS changed for you.

Sorry if it came off like that! I know and have known teenagers who aren't/weren't like that at all. Like most other things about humans, it varies considerably. I meant more that some people who are like that as teenagers are not like that when they're older; though some take longer to grow out of it than others, some never do, and some people actually become more like that as they get older.

Nooo that was about Jitter's comment, but I agree that people are too different and change at wildly different paces to gauge or place on a timeline accurately.

Catbirds, it really is Science! Studies have shown that for example the mental capacity for empathy diminishes during puberty, although it of course returns later and develops further. And the confrontations are required to break free of the symbiotic relationship with the caregivers, most typically parents, but it reflects wider. So, it’s not only confirmation bias, the stereotype based on facts :)

I did a quick search... I can't find any articles saying that particular thing, at least not in English, but several do say that empathy needs to be developed throughout puberty and that it's not the same as childhood. But I'm not really a developmental psychologist, so uheehhh... I'll let this one go for now. Personally I viewed the confrontational side of adolescence as being more about the desire to stand up for yourself (in a generally unfair society), and a number of my friends were... not confrontational at all, but many others in my school were. If you can recall, when and on whom was the study conducted?

It still stands that clearly Hannu was more understandable to me as a teenager than me now, though, so there was probably still a decent amount of truth in what you learned on this topic!

I missed a lot of the angsty teenager phase, I think, both because I had a lot of what most people would nowadays consider adult responsibilities from late childhood on, and because until my midteens I didn’t live anywhere with enough people to have anything like a high school.

I agree and this was interesting to read, because it's pretty clearly the environment of high school that makes students like that. Modern high school isn't a great place to learn, in my opinion, since it's basically mandatory even when some people aren't really interested in it and you spend over half your waking life involved in education and related activities, and to make it worse people cut funding so that the environment itself is terrible to learn in, even when the things you're learning are super important for understanding the modern world now. It might've been different like sixty or seventy or eighty years ago, but I wouldn't know!

And as to older people coming up with equally weird and vile themes: yeah, that happens, sadly. I haven’t seen it so much in my generation, since most people in their 80s have lived through enough real-world trouble to make them a bit more open and tolerant unless they have been really spoiled and sheltered, but the post-war generation seems more inclined to nastiness, especially the men, who were definitely more spoiled and sheltered in the aftermath of WW2, where so many boys were lost.

My experience with working with people older than eighty is that a lot of people with interesting stories to tell don't have the means or the physical ability to do it in any way other than orally, which is unfortunate because very few people listen to them. Though it's kind of terrible that two terrible wars happened in the first place...

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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #56 on: November 20, 2021, 01:04:51 AM »
I spent much of my childhood and up to the middle years of adolescence living on several remote farms, first in the far west of Ireland, then in the Australian bush, usually with up to five generations of relatives and several sideways steps (cousins and such) of family around me. I needed to help with the farm work from as soon as I physically could, and helped to care for the failing elderly and mind the little ones from when I was old enough to do that too. My gran, as well as being a farmer, was the local herbalist and midwife and repository of traditional lore, and had life gone as we hoped I would very likely have replaced her. Which would have been fine with me. But life happened.

While my family had been quite well-off so that we still had the remains of a large and multilingual library, and while many of the older rels had travelled widely, done much, and were willing both to share their knowledge and donate to our library the books they had brought back, what we didn’t have was a lot of money. But we coped. So I learned from them as I could and then proceeded to educate myself as well as I could. We were quite poor, most of our good land having been taken by the English over the previous few centuries, leaving us with one cold, rocky and bleak farm on the far west coast. No internet back then, of course! By the time I finally met a modern school system in my mid teens I had enough of an education base to get through the rest of my secondary and tertiary education on academic scholarships. My gran wanted me to have a science education, so that was what I aimed for and got.

But living like that either teaches you empathy or turns you into someone who hates everybody. I was lucky enough to avoid the latter, and never learned to hate people!
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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #57 on: November 20, 2021, 08:55:07 AM »
About teenage brain

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Catbirds, I am also not an expert in developmental psychology (which I think is the relevant field… so, my believability on this is not very high at all) so I probably both worded it badly and straightened too many corners.

The first result I found was from University of Utrecht and was only detected in males: 
https://www.melbournechildpsychology.com.au/blog/help-teenagers-develop-empathy/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24040846/ (this may be the article? Abstract is free to read)

This article gets off with suggesting that the decrease in observed empathy is at least partially due to stereotypes of gender roles, however I must admit I only read the few first pages where the authors are discussing existing studies and didn’t go into their own research: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8543568/

The latter one indicates that the observed development is indeed a result of several factors, and as the studies I took a cursory look at were heavily concentrated on white, middle class American and European families, it is blatantly obvious my initial claim was very lazy! Thank you for calling me out on it!

The field is fascinating but unfortunately I don’t have time to look any further. This already is enough to show how I have read in something like a magazine or newspaper an article blanketing “teenagers go backwards in empathy” and just swallowed it whole, when the research has indicated white European boys exhibit this.Serves me right :) As if I didn’t already know “people” may as well mean just male people as not.

 


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« Reply #58 on: November 22, 2021, 12:06:22 AM »
But living like that either teaches you empathy or turns you into someone who hates everybody. I was lucky enough to avoid the latter, and never learned to hate people!

Eeegh... yeah. That's unfortunate, I guess it ends up like this no matter which path you take. The more things change, the more they stay the same, I guess...

It's quite fortunate that you grew up in a community with the resources for you to learn. A lot of my older relatives can't even read LOL. And self-motivated study is pretty difficult, especially when you have that many responsibilities. I know most of my friends would've just goofed off and gotten drunk instead if they had the choice, not that that's worse than paying attention in school because I was definitely bored out of my mind in high school and sometimes hoped (in a lighthearted way) that some accident would befall me get me dismissed early. Oh, that actually came true I guess. I got dismissed three whole months early from high school because of COVID. Also my friends had ADHD.

But hey, it's not all bad! Also, I feel like you vaguely managed to attain the knowledge that you would've gotten from your grandmother, what with your knowledge of plants and other things which I can't list right now. But that's only vaguely speaking, I don't know what else happened.

Also, this kind of reminds me of how my father's life went, except he got denied entry to university because of institutional corruption. But that's a story for another day.

The latter one indicates that the observed development is indeed a result of several factors, and as the studies I took a cursory look at were heavily concentrated on white, middle class American and European families, it is blatantly obvious my initial claim was very lazy! Thank you for calling me out on it!

The field is fascinating but unfortunately I don’t have time to look any further. This already is enough to show how I have read in something like a magazine or newspaper an article blanketing “teenagers go backwards in empathy” and just swallowed it whole, when the research has indicated white European boys exhibit this.Serves me right :) As if I didn’t already know “people” may as well mean just male people as not.

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Honestly I didn't have that specific demographic in mind when I wrote that reply, but y'know, considering the social factors, it definitely would've been way more likely that an older study would've shown that kind of bias. Or maybe it actually is something that can be systematically determined maybe later. IDK, I admit psychology isn't really something I spend much time reading about even when I have a choice.

Also, the third article you linked does indeed say that it's gender roles doing the work. But I don't understand this kind of statistics so I skipped that part and jumped to the chunks of text in the discussion (...I'll learn how to understand it one day). It also references the one by Van der Graff et al.

Either way, no harm in verifying your own knowledge! A lot of things we learn are quite faulty or maybe cherry-picked to be, uh, sensational (not this specifically, I think...? But in general). Like the one about about blood turning blue on its way back to the lungs or the one about MSG making you sick, or something like that. And psychology isn't as systematic as a lot of other fields, or maybe it's that the human mind is really, really complicated...

Oh, it kind of does check out for myself too, I guess. I really wanted to take on the roles of a man as a teenager (not anymore), so I did project excessively onto male characters. Maybe that caused a decrease in empathy... probably not, actually, because when I actually talked to boys, I hated how cold or rude or offensive they'd be.

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Re: aRTD re-read
« Reply #59 on: November 22, 2021, 09:03:35 PM »
I think a lot of how I managed was simply that I started out as that weird little kid who was determined to learn Everything In The World (and who still hasn’t completely outgrown that ambition). I remember how shattered I was when I realised that doing so was impossible, both because new stuff was being discovered all the time and because the old people from whom I most wished to learn were dying off before they had taught me all they knew. I remember that I cried for a week, then picked myself up and determined to keep on learning all that I possibly could. I’m still doing that, and trying to spread the useful bits of what I have learned to people who can use that knowledge.
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