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Title: Disqus, infected
Post by: JoB on January 28, 2016, 05:28:50 PM
Well, I'm afraid that the first wannabe trolls have come to SSSS' Disqus section to stay ...

http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2483580540
http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2483583264
http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2483783307

... so I guess I'll be keeping the PGP keypair at hand ... :(

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Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Lazy8 on January 28, 2016, 06:52:35 PM
Can I ask how the community generally handles this? I've refrained from getting involved because I don't know how well I could keep my cool, but I really hope I don't have to quit the comments section on this webcomic like I did the last two because they stopped being enjoyable to read. :(
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Jenny Islander on January 28, 2016, 06:59:34 PM
Not knowing if there is a procedure in place, may I suggest one that has worked fairly well in another community I read at? 

1. Flag troll.
2. Reply "Flagged and ignored" to troll post.  Only those words.
3. Make new reply to non-troll post and continue conversation there.

Here's another, for less jerkish troll posts:

1. Make FAQ sticky post (is there one already?).
2. Reply "RTFAQ" to less jerkish troll post.
3. Make new reply to non-troll post and continue conversation there.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Róisín on January 28, 2016, 07:03:24 PM
I suspect JoB is on it. I usually reply once or twice, since we've had a few people who started out talking like that because that was the only sort of commenting they were used to, but who learned manners and stayed to become productive and interesting members of the community, including one who is now a fine artist and a thoroughly nice man, but once it gets beyond three or four rude and ignorant comments I just ignore them. They're trolling for a reaction. Don't react.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: viola on January 28, 2016, 07:03:59 PM
Can I ask how the community generally handles this? I've refrained from getting involved because I don't know how well I could keep my cool, but I really hope I don't have to quit the comments section on this webcomic like I did the last two because they stopped being enjoyable to read. :(

Minna is the comment section moderator, generally she's pretty good at keeping the comments a nice place to be. If things get out of hand there, I would go to her first. Minna is probably really good at cleansing *nodnods* I know she can also ban users from commenting on her page.

If it happened on the forum the moderators and admins here would evaluate the situation and act as necessary. 

Where ever they are, do not engage the trolls.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Lazy8 on January 28, 2016, 07:12:10 PM
Ah. So stand still and stay silent. Gotcha.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Athena on January 28, 2016, 07:13:30 PM
Ah. So stand still and stay silent. Gotcha.

Dang, you beat me to it.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Lazy8 on January 28, 2016, 07:40:18 PM
Dang, you beat me to it.

Nyeh! :P
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: JoB on January 28, 2016, 10:57:04 PM
Not knowing if there is a procedure in place, may I suggest one that has worked fairly well in another community I read at? 
1. Flag troll.
There's one teensy tiny problem with that, there is no moderator besides Minna herself for the Disqus comments, so large-handed flagging would threaten to overload the resources that we'ld rather have make more comic pages ...

2. Reply "Flagged and ignored" to troll post.  Only those words.
Ugh. Most trolls I've seen would see that as you confronting them and challenge you to "prove your ridiculous claim", which means that you're instantly in the defense.

I suspect JoB is on it.
... muh? I have no official function on Disqus, nor on this here forum ...
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: shoop on January 28, 2016, 11:55:05 PM
uh.....I mean the comments is definitely rude, but I don't see how the third comment is a troll? I think it's just a very poorly worded criticism. Not enough to justify being flagged as troll/spam?
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Noodles on January 29, 2016, 12:01:45 AM
uh.....I mean the comments is definitely rude, but I don't see how the third comment is a troll? I think it's just a very poorly worded criticism. Not enough to justify being flagged as troll/spam?
It wasn't so much what they said there (though that was also kinda mean), but when other people said "I like the pace" and gave piles of evidence for Stuff Happening (even if there weren't grosslings or fire), they dismissed it as "fanboying"
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Róisín on January 29, 2016, 12:12:44 AM
JoB: as in drawing attention to it, bringing to peoples' notice.
Noodly: exactly that. It was unmannerly.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Sc0ut on January 29, 2016, 05:25:58 AM
uh.....I mean the comments is definitely rude, but I don't see how the third comment is a troll? I think it's just a very poorly worded criticism. Not enough to justify being flagged as troll/spam?

This. I hope this community's definition of a troll isn't "someone who dares to criticize the perfect work of our lady and saviour" because then you're gonna have to ban me too. I've made almost the same comment as this guy a long time ago, and have criticized other things about the comic as well. The guy did give a somewhat rude reply to Aliax, but that's certainly not enough to call one a troll (I haven't seen other comments by him). He just said what he feels about the comic - and if I were Minna, I'd like to know these things. Some people aren't very pleasant but don't mean to cause trouble. Just don't engage with them and their comment gets drowned soon enough.

Also, JoB, your second link goes to one of your own comments, are you reporting yourself? ;)
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: P__ on January 29, 2016, 06:23:26 AM
Also, JoB, your second link goes to one of your own comments, are you reporting yourself? ;)

There's been a few "JoB replying to JoB" comments lately. I suspect it's not humor on his part, but a troll using the same nickname (but we can't see the difference because neither is a registered Disqus account). I've been confused too
BTW JoB, even if you don't want to use it, maybe you should make a Disqus account (if you haven't already) to make sure no-one steals the nick. [actually there's a @JOB already, but...]
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Dane Murgen on January 29, 2016, 06:51:26 AM
This. I hope this community's definition of a troll isn't "someone who dares to criticize the perfect work of our lady and saviour" because then you're gonna have to ban me too. I've made almost the same comment as this guy a long time ago, and have criticized other things about the comic as well. The guy did give a somewhat rude reply to Aliax, but that's certainly not enough to call one a troll (I haven't seen other comments by him). He just said what he feels about the comic - and if I were Minna, I'd like to know these things. Some people aren't very pleasant but don't mean to cause trouble. Just don't engage with them and their comment gets drowned soon enough.

I think one of the reasons for this response for the third comment is this post (https://ssssforum.com/index.php?topic=233.0) from early on in the forum's history. Now, because this comment was throwing criticism in a fan forum where Minna can't actually see the message, this is most definitely a troll, as it provoked many reactions to the post.*+ Apply this troll scan in every situation, and we get the third comment, which may or may not be a troll, as Minna would maybe have been able to read it. Of course, here, this person's intent is not as clear, so labelling them a troll may have been too soon.

*quote: In Internet slang, a troll (/ˈtroʊl/, /ˈtrɒl/) is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response[2] or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion,[3] often for their own amusement. From Wikipedia.

+Eleven, to be precise.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Sc0ut on January 29, 2016, 07:45:51 AM
That wasn't a troll either, just an immature person. He made a thread called "criticism" and posted there once - on topic, no matter how poor his arguments were. A troll would've posted this or similar messages all over the board. THAT is disruptive and inflaming behavior. Making one thread or one comment about something that matters to you (even if it's negative or poorly thought out) and sticking to it isn't. People simply saying things that others disagree with is not disruptive. Sometimes I have a feeling that you guys have never been in truly toxic internet communities to know what real trolls are like.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Rabbit on January 29, 2016, 08:25:35 AM
I would have more things to say if I was slightly more awake, but just put me down as agreeing with Scout for now.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Lazy8 on January 29, 2016, 08:28:30 AM
I agree that the person is within his rights to criticize the comic (which I remember Aliax doing quite a bit a few weeks back); the issue is the rude way he was responding to people who attempted to respectfully disagree with him. "I didn't even bother to read your response because it's just stupid fanboying"? Yeah, that crossed a line.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 29, 2016, 09:53:04 AM
I agree that the person is within his rights to criticize the comic (which I remember Aliax doing quite a bit a few weeks back);
Two weeks and two days ago, precisely. And nobody called me a troll.

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the issue is the rude way he was responding to people who attempted to respectfully disagree with him. "I didn't even bother to read your response because it's just stupid fanboying"? Yeah, that crossed a line.
Seriously, people, just go read the thread. This guy is a *textbook* internet troll.

- My opinion is fact? Check.

- I don't read the comments (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2483783307) but I know what they all say anyway (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2484697917)? Check.

- I know what the work should be better than the creator of the work herself (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2484697917)? Check. (For those who don't want to bother with the link: "I can go back and cite actual phases when this comic was absolutely perfect and in its element. I can actually pinpoint the place where its story telling went from grim and dark to cute-sy and uninteresting.")

- Anyone who disagrees with me is just a fanperson (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2483783307)? Check.

- Anyone who disagrees with me is just butthurt (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2484674949)? Check.

- This comments section is probably full of tumblr teens too full of themselves to distinguish criticism from an attack on the artist (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2484674949) ? Check, and I'm directly quoting him here.

- I'm entitled to post my opinion wherever I want? Check (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2482832281) and check (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2484697917).

- No, I will not be polite (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2484666783)? Check.

- I don't read long answers - except for the one that agrees the least bit with me, in which case I lavish it with praise, and take the opportunity to misrepresent those other comments which I supposedly haven't read in the first place? Check (http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2482931490): "Glad to read your well thought out response. That's a refreshing change from allegations of wanting explosions"

And so forth and so on. This guy has shown himself to be a troll through and through.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: JoB on January 29, 2016, 10:26:52 AM
uh.....I mean the comments is definitely rude, but I don't see how the third comment is a troll? I think it's just a very poorly worded criticism. Not enough to justify being flagged as troll/spam?
It's a definite possibility that the occasional "merely rude" comment gets mistaken for trolling when trolling is going on, I'm afraid. It's not like the trolls would want to make themselves recognized easily. What they do want is to get people worked up and switching away from the topics they used to discuss before - and rudeness is right up that alley ...

(I didn't flag that comment, either.)

Also, JoB, your second link goes to one of your own comments, are you reporting yourself? ;)
I didn't write that one.

There's been a few "JoB replying to JoB" comments lately. I suspect it's not humor on his part, but a troll using the same nickname (but we can't see the difference because neither is a registered Disqus account). I've been confused too
BTW JoB, even if you don't want to use it, maybe you should make a Disqus account (if you haven't already) to make sure no-one steals the nick. [actually there's a @JOB already, but...]
I registered when the impersonations continued for two or three days. Point is, "JoB" and "JoB2" were obviously taken (registration refused), then I registered as "JoB0", got an account ID that's actually random, but the displayed name is still "JoB". In other words: Registered users can duplicate other registered users' names as displayed just the same. (Some added effort to also copy the avatar, but.)
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Curry on January 29, 2016, 10:30:59 AM
Eeeh, I definitely see the guy as rude and probably inexperienced as to how more polite communities (like the SSSS fandom) work, but that's how a lot of people operate on the internet. There are gonna be douchebags and there are gonna be douchebags that are a lot worse than some guy who's much too abrupt and unwilling to change his opinion. This community is so cushy and small that any sort of discord comes as a shock, so yes, I get that, but it's really not anything worth reporting (yet).

I'm with Scout here. He's not spamming anywhere and it's really not horrible enough to be a troll.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: urbicande on January 29, 2016, 10:34:57 AM
Yeah, not a troll.

But...well...

Don't feed the trolls. Just don't.  Ignore them.  They feed on your attention.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 29, 2016, 10:43:01 AM
I don't understand why some people are arguing that "there are worse people out there than this guy". That's really not the point. The point is not whether there are worse trolls, but only whether this particular guy IS a troll or not. It doesn't matter if he's not the worst kind of troll; it only matters whether he is a troll.

And the answer is yes, he is, because he has openly behaved in ways aimed at upsetting people. He has deliberately antagonised people. He has deliberately insulted both Minna and most of the commenters who replied to him. He has amply shown that he's not at all interested in discussing anything SSSS-related, but only in negatively criticising the work and outright insulting anyone who disagrees with him. So he's a troll, by the very definition of the words "internet troll". It's completely irrelevant that he's not the worst kind of troll ever.

I don't necessarily advocate taking any kind of action against him, because ignoring him seems to be enough. But that doesn't necessitate denying his nature. He's a troll, even if of the kind that is best left ignored.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Sc0ut on January 29, 2016, 11:00:28 AM
Aliax... really, I don't think this guy is a troll. He expressed a negative but somewhat well-argued opinion, and got a bunch of people piling on him to silence him, some with good arguments, other with very poor ones. (Seriously, if I were making a comic and my readers would defend me with "but so much work goes into it!! it updates daily!" I would be so ashamed.) He became rude only after some fans made it clear that they can't bear any criticism of the comic whatsoever - and honestly, I can understand this reaction though I don't support it.

I think the real problem here is that some of us just can't stand the fact that some people don't like this comic. Let them not like it! Comments like this are fewer than 1/1000. Minna will be fine. The community will be fine. Seriously. You don't have to reply, and you can't change their mind anyway.

For whatever's worth, here's the guy having a completely civil exchange with me: https://disqus.com/home/discussion/sssscomic/stand_still_stay_silent_webcomic_page_460/#comment-2484701080 I bet he was polite with me because, unlike most people who replied, I was fine with him not liking the comic.

Also:

I don't necessarily advocate taking any kind of action against him, because ignoring him seems to be enough.

This is one of the best ways to tell someone's not a troll, actually. He shuts up if he's ignored. A troll will only intensify his abuse and pick on more people until he gets banned.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Lazy8 on January 29, 2016, 12:05:28 PM
Two weeks and two days ago, precisely. And nobody called me a troll.

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Seriously, people, just go read the thread.

I... think we're in agreement? In all honesty, it can sometimes be kind of hard to tell.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Haiz on January 29, 2016, 12:14:43 PM
The comic is getting more and more known, and the fanbase and all that comes with it is also getting bigger. I agree that this person might have been rude in some replies, but we HAVE to be able to handle not everyone liking every single aspect of the comic. I mean, that's practically a sign of success! before we know it, we'll have conservative christians making websites protesting the comic's pagan-promoting content.

I ALSO think it's important to remember that no piece of fiction is flawless, and neither are their creators. Minna is an amazing person who does indeed put a lot of work into her gorgeous comic, but she is still a human being, not a goddess, which means that she's not flawless either. But I believe she's tough enough to take some critique, even trolls, and that if things really get out of hand in the comment section, she'll know how to deal with it.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 29, 2016, 01:12:02 PM
He expressed a negative but somewhat well-argued opinion,
Well, since you mention it: could you explain to me just what his arguments were? Because all I got was, "This comic sucks because it didn't turn out to be what I wanted it to be", which is not any kind of argument as far as I can tell  ???

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and got a bunch of people piling on him to silence him, some with good arguments,

I'd like to think that my answers were among those good arguments, and he made a very visible point of ignoring them. That's not the behaviour of someone trying to discuss anything.

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(Seriously, if I were making a comic and my readers would defend me with "but so much work goes into it!! it updates daily!" I would be so ashamed.)

That was only one of many arguments that were made. 

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He became rude only after some fans made it clear that they can't bear any criticism of the comic whatsoever

Dude, you're talking to the guy who very publicly criticised the comic only two weeks ago  :o ! I don't think that I, of all people, can be said to not be able to "bear any criticism of the comic whatsoever". And yet this guy rudely dismissed my answers as "fanboy theses" and implied that I was stupid and butthurt and an immature teenager. I mean, come on!

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I think the real problem here is that some of us just can't stand the fact that some people don't like this comic.

That's not true, and I'm living proof of it. Nobody tried to crucify me when I had my meltdown - because I didn't act like a troll. When people engaged me, I respected them and their opinions. I didn't dismiss everyone who didn't agree with me as stupid, butthurt, immature teenagers. I didn't imply that I knew better than Minna what she should do with her comic. This guy did all of that, and that makes him a troll.

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The community will be fine. Seriously. You don't have to reply, and you can't change their mind anyway.

But that's the thing with trolls: it's too late to "not reply" once you identify them. This guy upset quite a few people, and then doubled down by insulting the upset people. The community will be fine, I totally agree, but he did do some damage. Nothing lasting nor horrible, but nothing that needed to happen either, and there's no reason to whitewash his misbehaviour.

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For whatever's worth, here's the guy having a completely civil exchange with me: https://disqus.com/home/discussion/sssscomic/stand_still_stay_silent_webcomic_page_460/#comment-2484701080 I bet he was polite with me because, unlike most people who replied, I was fine with him not liking the comic.

Can't be, because I too was fine with him not liking the comic. I said so in my very first comment (https://disqus.com/home/discussion/sssscomic/stand_still_stay_silent_webcomic_page_460/oldest/#comment-2482493283) to him: "Sounds to me like "some more drama, some scarier things and a bit more action-y stuff, but in its core it's still a quite light story with an unhurried pace, a lot of friendship and a journey through the unknown" is simply not your cup of tea." And I wasn't the only one either. The difference between you and me is that I also disagreed with his opinion on the comic having "serious pacing and plot issues", while you didn't. In other words: this guy wants to be allowed to give negative criticism, but refuses to take it too in return. Another sign that he's not there to discuss honestly.

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This is one of the best ways to tell someone's not a troll, actually. He shuts up if he's ignored. A troll will only intensify his abuse and pick on more people until he gets banned.

Erm, no. "Don't feed the trolls" is a common saying for a good reason: because it works with most trolls. Most trolls give up if they are ignored, because being ignored is no fun for them. Only the most tenacious ones keep going until they get banned. In fact, most trolls I've known are very careful NOT to get banned: they will skirt the line again and again and again, but never to the point of getting banned, because again, where would the fun be in that?
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 29, 2016, 01:16:12 PM
I... think we're in agreement? In all honesty, it can sometimes be kind of hard to tell.
Argh. Yes, we are :) Sorry, I was specifically not including you in the "people", but I forgot to mention it.

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we HAVE to be able to handle not everyone liking every single aspect of the comic.
But you ARE! I'm living proof of it!
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Lazy8 on January 29, 2016, 01:23:52 PM
Argh. Yes, we are :) Sorry, I was specifically not including you in the "people", but I forgot to mention it.

Heh, drawback of communicating without any nonverbal cues. Hence why I asked for clarification. :D
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 29, 2016, 01:30:45 PM
Heh, drawback of communicating without any nonverbal cues.

Urgh, tell me about it  :-[ The number of times I ended up in a situation where I was like, "But that's really, really not how I meant it D: !" I love to discuss but I suck at communicating my opinions without somehow hurting someone sooner or later. Is it any wonder I wanted to be a Vulcan when I was a kid :D ? Oh, the freedom of discussing things on the pure basis of logic... Heaven :P !

So thank you so much for asking for clarification :) You have no idea how much I appreciate that!
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Haiz on January 29, 2016, 01:35:19 PM
But you ARE! I'm living proof of it!
I'm not talking about you specifically! I meant more like this, with an entire TROLL ALERT thread started up, I honestly expected worse. I am in no way endorsing the internet being a generally awful place, but the examples presented are pretty tame, even compared to other things we've seen in this very community. once i was unlucky enough to see a pretty gross doodle someone posted in the comments before minna removed it, and there has not been enough brain bleach to unsee it since.

my point is, it's not really worth pulling too many expenses whenever someone says anything disagreeable, it's gonna be exhausting in the long run.

....... there was, however, the episode with some kid in the ssss tumblr tag who attacked anyone (you know, death threats and stuff?) who drew racebend fanart. that was pretty bad. I haven't seen them since I actually confronted them about it - i blocked them whenever they showed up in the tag, but they got into some really nasty arguments with several of my friends months later, so I ended up interfering despite me so not wanting to feed the troll. apparently, confrontation DOES help sometimes.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Curry on January 29, 2016, 01:40:35 PM
I meant more like this, with an entire TROLL ALERT thread started up, I honestly expected worse. I am in no way endorsing the internet being a generally awful place, but the examples presented are pretty tame, even compared to other things we've seen in this very community.

Yeah, this is what I was generally thinking. It's a lot for something kind of smaller, so I guess I'm less likely to be seriously worried? Especially if the insults mentioned were so... tame. Most of the time when trolls are mentioned I expect things like haiz mentioned above. Eh, whatever, that's my bit ¯\_( ᐛ )_/¯
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 29, 2016, 01:57:41 PM
Personally, I'm a lot more worried by the impersonation bit, because that can turn nasty real quick, or even just poison the waters of the community, so I think that bit was worth being mentioned, so people are aware that they might not be talking to who they think they are talking to.

Regarding that one troll: I wouldn't have bothered mentioning him here, but now that it's done, at least people can know to stay away from this one user. Heh.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: shoop on January 29, 2016, 04:03:48 PM
Haha god just thinking about that tumblr troll makes me wanna punch their face in. What an awful dude.

I'm glad this kinda reached a conclusion. There's definitely a difference between rudeness and trolling. This forum is so Anti-Conflict (which is fine, people like a place where they don't have to defend themselves) I wouldn't be surprised you guys aren't used to sort of regular-brand internet rudeness.

@Aliax: I feel like this could be cleared up on the forum :p no one can impersonate job on here, he'd just have to make a post abt it.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 29, 2016, 04:36:29 PM
There's definitely a difference between rudeness and trolling. This forum is so Anti-Conflict (which is fine, people like a place where they don't have to defend themselves) I wouldn't be surprised you guys aren't used to sort of regular-brand internet rudeness.

Er... Just in case: I still say that guy is a troll, and I've seen much, much worse. I've been on the internet for more than 15 years, in some extremely wanky fandoms and comms, where people like this guy were a dime a dozen, and either got zapped on sight because the mods had much bigger problems to deal with, or were left to eat each other in the middle of the room while the rest of us had our little discussions in the corners. If anything, this forum is too nice for me: I feel like an elephant in a china shop, like I'll be hurting feelings left and right if I don't keep myself on my toes at all times, because I'm used to quite rougher environments. Luckily for me, the comments on Disqus are "less nice", which is why I participate more heavily there than here.

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@Aliax: I feel like this could be cleared up on the forum :p no one can impersonate job on here, he'd just have to make a post abt it.

You mean... like he did with this very thread ??? ?
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: JoB on January 29, 2016, 04:48:14 PM
I meant more like this, with an entire TROLL ALERT thread started up, I honestly expected worse.
I guess that that's referring to me as the thread starter? Please note that I wasn't referring to only that one instance, and I did call them "wannabe trolls" as well.

I guess that what I'm having a problem with is so much troll-ish stuff starting more or less simultaneously, and maybe that it includes outright impersonation attempts right from square one. (If you haven't seen it yet, someone posted as an unregistered "minnasundberg" today.) I smell sockpuppetry (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sockpuppet_%28Internet%29) ...

no one can impersonate job on here, he'd just have to make a post abt it.
Well, I sure hope so. The account settings page (https://ssssforum.com/index.php?action=profile;area=account) does have a field to change your displayed name, it doesn't say whether it'ld enforce uniqueness of same ...

[Edit to rectify abomination of a sentence structure]
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 29, 2016, 05:05:41 PM
I guess that what I'm having a problem with is so much troll-ish stuff starting more or less simultaneously, and maybe that it includes outright impersonation attempts right from square one. (If you haven't seen it yet, someone posted as an unregistered "minnasundberg" today.) I smell sockpuppetry (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sockpuppet_%28Internet%29) ...

Ugh, great =_= Hopefully they'll get bored soon.

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Well, I sure hope so. The account settings page (https://ssssforum.com/index.php?action=profile;area=account) does have a field to change your displayed name, it doesn't say whether it'ld enforce uniqueness of same ...

That's easy enough to verify...

" The following errors occurred when trying to save your profile:

    The selected username/display name has already been taken."

Nope, no can do :) !

Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Noodles on January 29, 2016, 07:17:35 PM
Egh, trolls. I shouldn't have gotten involved with this person, but I am pretty bad at not turning into a little column of fiery rage when name-calling/other attack arguments ("I don't like you" as opposed to "I don't like your opinion," which is fine by me) show up. Live and learn. (Also, by their reply to my post, I'm pretty sure they qualify as a troll. Not a spammer, but in the "I like trying to make people on the internet sad just because I can" genre.)
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Sunflower on January 29, 2016, 07:59:44 PM
Well, I'm afraid that the first wannabe trolls have come to SSSS' Disqus section to stay ...

http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2483580540
http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2483583264
http://www.sssscomic.com/comic.php?page=460#comment-2483783307


I'm catching up with a lot of Forum comments after a very busy week IRL.  Thanks for the alerts, JoB.

I actually didn't see anything bad at the first 2 links.  Could Minna have removed the problematic comments?

At the third link, I saw a commenter (with an actual Disqus profile -- he (?) keeps it private but apparently comments a fair amount, though not nearly as much as I do) criticizing the comic's slow pacing, in rather cranky tones.  As other people have said below, while I don't personally enjoy his cranky, rude tone, he doesn't strike me as a troll merely for not enjoying the comic. 

Were the first two comments JoB linked from the same person?  Or problematic in the same way?  Or were they something different/worse, like spam or abusive language? 

I'm just curious in case we need to keep watch for something similar popping up on the Forum.  Unlike the Disqus comments, where Minna is the sole administrator (subject to Disqus' and her Web host's ground rules), we can take matter into our own hands if we think someone's acting in a problematic way. 

..................

P.S.  I just realized after replying to JoB's original post that there was quite a lot of recent commentary in this thread, which I haven't read in depth yet.  If I skipped over some important development, I apologize and I'll update this post accordingly. 
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: JoB on January 29, 2016, 08:20:51 PM
I actually didn't see anything bad at the first 2 links.  Could Minna have removed the problematic comments?
No, they're unchanged as far as I can see. None of the comments individually scream "hello, I'll be your ruiner of moods for today". Part of what worries me is that we see multiple instances of borderline behavior beginning simultaneously +/- 1 day, purportedly all from different people ...

(#2 is an outright impersonation attempt, though. The comment being replied to was from me, the reply itself is someone else's. The (poor) impersonation of "minnasundberg" on the current page has been removed in the meantime.)
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Haiz on January 30, 2016, 04:37:06 AM
I guess that that's referring to me as the thread starter? Please note that I wasn't referring to only that one instance, and I did call them "wannabe trolls" as well.

I guess that what I'm having a problem with is so much troll-ish stuff starting more or less simultaneously, and maybe that it includes outright impersonation attempts right from square one. (If you haven't seen it yet, someone posted as an unregistered "minnasundberg" today.) I smell sockpuppetry (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sockpuppet_%28Internet%29) ...
fair enough, that's bad.

As a pro-active measure I did some noodling and found pretty much everything about him, his name, his high school, college, some professors, current residence, where he works, etc.  - thus if his behaviour worsens to the point where it is absolutely necessary , then, measures can be taken .
I really don't think this guy is worth all that. YES, he was rude, but you guys seem to have a lot of faith in Minna, let her handle anything that gets out of control.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: shoop on January 30, 2016, 04:50:45 AM
...seriously guys I think Minna can handle herself. She's a grown lady and tough, too. And prof marvel, um???

He also requires some schooling in exactly what his "rights" are - actually he has none ;  ie: he paid nothing for this free web comic or the web comic site upkeep, and is only tolerated on the webcomic comments section by the grace of the author. She can end comments at whim and he has no right to say anything.

I mean........yes.........you don't get a free pass to say Anything You Want, that's why Minna asked a dude to remove his sexist comment that one time, but that's. this isn't. He's only been kind of rude, and Minna can just delete it if she wants?? Also, you talk about rights, I feel like -


Technically he has already violated the terms of Disqus with his (mild) uncalled-for namecalling

As a pro-active measure I did some noodling and found pretty much everything about him, his name, his high school, college, some professors, current residence, where he works, etc.  - thus if his behaviour worsens to the point where it is absolutely necessary , then, measures can be taken .
(the bold is my emphasis)

-IT'S WELL WITHIN HIS RIGHTS not to have someone look into his personal info?? measures??? what kind of measures??? this is going a LITTLE FAR for a guy who was KINDA MEAN in the comments. I'm not trying to belittle anyone's hurt feelings here but prof marvel I feel like this is a little out of hand.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: princeofdoom on January 30, 2016, 05:52:39 AM
From what I've seen at least:
1. I do think he's a troll, but at the very least he was rude.
2. He's a minor troll who we don't need to worry about.
3. Being rude OR a troll does not warrant people snooping on you whether they plan to use the info or not.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Sc0ut on January 30, 2016, 06:34:47 AM
[...]gets very protective about stuff , people, and artists he likes. [...]
[...]I also do not tolerate rudeness [...]
[...]He also requires some schooling in exactly what his "rights" are - actually he has none[...]
[...]As a pro-active measure I did some noodling and found pretty much everything about him, his name, his high school, college, some professors, current residence, where he works, etc.  - thus if his behaviour worsens to the point where it is absolutely necessary , then, measures can be taken . [...]

Congratulations, you are now more unpleasant than any rude troll. I don't know (or care) if what you said about finding his personal info is true or not. The fact that you feel entitled to do this (or threaten with this) over mild rudeness makes you worse than him in my eyes. Righteousness like this is disgusting.

As for " He does not seem to realize there are quite few wonderful people out here whose feelings can be easily hurt, who have as much right to the Web as he does." - you just said he has no rights, so I suppose nobody does, right?
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Gwenno on January 30, 2016, 07:41:07 AM
Troll or no, this thread is bringing out the worst in a lot of people.

There will be times when new commenters appear and we don't like what they're saying. This community is getting bigger, and these things will probably happen more often now. We may think that their opinions are unfair, that their tones are rude, and that they're out to pick a fight. These things could be due to a bias in our perception, a misunderstanding gone out of hand or they may well be true! Just remember that overwhelming an unfamiliar commenter may be unintentionally creating an environment which forces them to be defensive, makes them lash out, and produces rude 'troll like' behaviour from someone who feels under attack. Equally, we have gained good community members when we've treated these disagreeing commenters decently. Your own actions can be powerful, even when you don't intend on them to be.

You can't force everyone on the internet to live to your own standards, but you can live up to them yourself. Be the change you wish to see. It may be hard to do when you feel hurt not to reply in spite, but please hold back, both on the comments and on here. You'll be creating the world you hate, and become the monster you think you're fighting and worse. One of the many wonderful things about the internet is that you can take time to think before replying, a luxury that would be very appreciated in real life. Use this time to think about what you're saying, who it can hurt and what it can do.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: viola on January 30, 2016, 07:55:17 AM
Hey guys, this troll issue is really not something we need to worry about. Minna is perfectly capable of handling her comment section, and we are capable of handling the forum.

Really the more important thing to be aware of is that there is someone impersonating JoB in the comments and we need to be aware that we might not be talking to JoB when we see the name in the section.

Otherwise, everything is fine. We've dealt with trolls in the past and Minna has too. She can and will ban people she feels are a problem from her comment section, it's happened in the past. This really isn't an issue worth arguing over. It will happen again one day and probably even more often, and we will just keep going on being the awesome community we are and not let it get to us.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Guardian G.I. on January 30, 2016, 08:02:26 AM
I agree with Sc0ut and Gwenno.

As a pro-active measure I did some noodling and found pretty much everything about him, his name, his high school, college, some professors, current residence, where he works, etc.  - thus if his behaviour worsens to the point where it is absolutely necessary , then, measures can be taken .

Trying to dox people because you didn't like the tone of their comment on the Internet isn't a good thing to do.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Lenny on January 30, 2016, 08:06:33 AM
Troll or no, this thread is bringing out the worst in a lot of people.

There will be times when new commenters appear and we don't like what they're saying. This community is getting bigger, and these things will probably happen more often now. We may think that their opinions are unfair, that their tones are rude, and that they're out to pick a fight. These things could be due to a bias in our perception, a misunderstanding gone out of hand or they may well be true! Just remember that overwhelming an unfamiliar commenter may be unintentionally creating an environment which forces them to be defensive, makes them lash out, and produces rude 'troll like' behaviour from someone who feels under attack. Equally, we have gained good community members when we've treated these disagreeing commenters decently. Your own actions can be powerful, even when you don't intend on them to be.

You can't force everyone on the internet to live to your own standards, but you can live up to them yourself. Be the change you wish to see. It may be hard to do when you feel hurt not to reply in spite, but please hold back, both on the comments and on here. You'll be creating the world you hate, and become the monster you think you're fighting and worse. One of the many wonderful things about the internet is that you can take time to think before replying, a luxury that would be very appreciated in real life. Use this time to think about what you're saying, who it can hurt and what it can do.

Hey guys, this troll issue is really not something we need to worry about. Minna is perfectly capable of handling her comment section, and we are capable of handling the forum.

This, please.

As far as I can see, the only productive thing about this thread has been "hey, alert that people are becoming slightly unpleasant on an unaffiliated platform", and "warning, imposters are creeping in". The imposter issue is much more warning flag than the very minor troll, yet everyone's harping on about one person who is very easily dealt with through just ignoring him. It's not even as if he were posting on every comment that says the comic is good and contradicting him, he's just posting to his own original comment.

I'd also like to know why we are discussing someone essentially behind their back? *raises eyebrows* Not needed. I like the way this place is mostly conflict free and friendly. I'd like it even more if it didn't cross the line and go Dolores Umbridge sickly sweet we-know-what's-best-for-you.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 30, 2016, 09:23:57 AM
Foreword: I'm in no way saying that everyone should feel or act like me. I'm only explaining where I'm coming from and why I think and act the way I do, nothing more.

Just remember that overwhelming an unfamiliar commenter may be unintentionally creating an environment which forces them to be defensive, makes them lash out, and produces rude 'troll like' behaviour from someone who feels under attack.
(emphasis mine)

Sorry, but I can't agree with that. In my opinion and experience, nothing anyone says can force anyone else to act like a troll. I've seen this being proven untrue again and again. We can't choose how we feel, but we can choose how we act. We can feel horribly hurt and angry and attacked, but that does not mean that we have no other choice but to react in an abusive and insulting manner, as this guy did. You even say so yourself at the end of your post. I quote:

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One of the many wonderful things about the internet is that you can take time to think before replying, a luxury that would be very appreciated in real life. Use this time to think about what you're saying, who it can hurt and what it can do.

This applies to that troll just as much as to us.

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Equally, we have gained good community members when we've treated these disagreeing commenters decently.

We DID treat this guy decently. Nothing we said "deserved" the kind of troll behaviour he dished back.

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Be the change you wish to see.

Which is precisely why I won't let anyone argue that their opinion is fact when it isn't, or that something is crap just because they don't like it, when they do this on a topic I care about. I spent the first 37 years of my life being brainwashed into blindly accepting my abuser's opinions as facts even when they clearly weren't, and 30 of those 37 years being indoctrinated into accepting that whatever my church didn't like was evil even when I couldn't see anything wrong with it. I will no longer sit on my hands when I see someone acting in such an outrageous way again on a topic I care about.

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It may be hard to do when you feel hurt not to reply in spite, but please hold back, both on the comments and on here.

I can't do that. I will NOT hold back around people who outright attack me or the principles I hold dear. I literally spent my life holding back, and I will no longer do it (if only because it's incredibly toxic to both my physical and mental healths.)

And let me repeat what I said at the beginning of my post: I'm in no way saying that everyone should feel or act like me. I'm only explaining where I'm coming from and why I think and act the way I do, nothing more.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Haiz on January 30, 2016, 10:20:02 AM
@ everyone still reacting over that one "troll":



he's not worth your time, there will be more of them, you're not getting paid to defend minna and her work in every situation, and. Aliax - it's not about just you personally. yesterday I scrolled down to see the comments, and there were SO MANY replies. it's not just you, it's the horde of people retaliating on one person being rude and maybe even upset. prof_marvel, it's not buddhist to hold grudges. People say dumb things, I said dumb things once, and someone declared their hate for me in the comfort corner as a result of that. It was bad.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: JoB on January 30, 2016, 11:19:53 AM
Really the more important thing to be aware of is that there is someone impersonating JoB in the comments and we need to be aware that we might not be talking to JoB when we see the name in the section.
Well, not necessarily only me ... I noticed the extra JoBs because I'm not a registered Disqus user and have to actually Ctrl-F through the SSSS page to notice people replying to me.

I'd also like to know why we are discussing someone essentially behind their back? *raises eyebrows*
You're referring to Mr. "pacing issue" here, I take it? Well, he did effectively announce he'ld keep his back turned to our fanboyishly dissecting his opinion, so I don't quite see why we should be obliged to keep cluttering Disqus' daily chunk instead of having it all neatly sorted into this thread on the forum instead. A thread in the part of the boards readable to anon visitors, mind. As far as I'm concerned, feel free to throw a link his way on Disqus.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 30, 2016, 12:14:08 PM
@ everyone still reacting over that one "troll":

Can I take this opportunity to ask why people do what you did here? Whether it's saying, "Let it go", or "People need to stop discussing this topic" or anything of the sort? I honestly don't get it  ??? To me, it seems obvious that if people are still discussing something, it's because they are still interested in the topic, so it seems very rude to me to tell them to stop talking about it. Similarly, if someone is still upset or emotional in any way over something, it seems like a complete lack of compassion to me to tell them to "just let it go". I honestly don't understand this, BUT I also refuse to conclude that people must simply be that rude or that lacking in compassion, so clearly I'm missing something here. Could you help me understand, please?

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he's not worth your time, there will be more of them, you're not getting paid to defend minna and her work in every situation

All of this is true, but why does it mean that we can't individually choose to do any (or all) of this anyway if we feel so inclined?

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Aliax - it's not about just you personally.

I'm perfectly aware of that  ??? ?
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Curry on January 30, 2016, 12:44:16 PM
I think it's more that it's unnerving to see this reaction to negative views of Minna's work and a bit of rudeness. Yes, it is GREAT that this community is so unified in their love of the comic, but honestly I'm a bit driven away by the threats to find your personal information and offline, private life and use them against you, especially because I've had the exact same feelings that this person has expressed.

Can I take this opportunity to ask why people do what you did here? Whether it's saying, "Let it go", or "People need to stop discussing this topic" or anything of the sort? I honestly don't get it  ??? To me, it seems obvious that if people are still discussing something, it's because they are still interested in the topic, so it seems very rude to me to tell them to stop talking about it. Similarly, if someone is still upset or emotional in any way over something, it seems like a complete lack of compassion to me to tell them to "just let it go". I honestly don't understand this, BUT I also refuse to conclude that people must simply be that rude or that lacking in compassion, so clearly I'm missing something here. Could you help me understand, please?

People do this because there is discord growing and they are trying to nip it in the bud. This thread isn't a comfort corner, it was an announcement, and if you're upset and emotional (which is entirely understandable), that thread might be a better place to express your feelings - a quick reminder that we have already had moderators put their words in on this topic:

Hey guys, this troll issue is really not something we need to worry about. Minna is perfectly capable of handling her comment section, and we are capable of handling the forum.

Really the more important thing to be aware of is that there is someone impersonating JoB in the comments and we need to be aware that we might not be talking to JoB when we see the name in the section.

Otherwise, everything is fine. We've dealt with trolls in the past and Minna has too. She can and will ban people she feels are a problem from her comment section, it's happened in the past. This really isn't an issue worth arguing over. It will happen again one day and probably even more often, and we will just keep going on being the awesome community we are and not let it get to us.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 30, 2016, 01:54:56 PM
I think it's more that it's unnerving to see this reaction to negative views of Minna's work

In my case, it had nothing to do with my love for SSSS. I've occasionally taken similar stands about works I don't like (like Twilight or 50 Shades - no offense meant to people who like them, they are just really not my thing): dislike a work all you want, but when it comes to judging it (which this guy was doing), then judge it on its own merits and according to what it pretends to be, not according to what you wish it were.

I've also been on the other side of this problem: complaining about how a manga I used to follow was evolving, because its second chapter (an extended flashback) had led me to believe that it was going to be something vastly different from what its author is actually interested in. Once I realised that I was basing my assumptions on a false premise (that the second chapter was intended to modulate the mood and plot established in the first chapter), it became a simple matter of, "Oh, well in that case, this manga is not my cup of tea and I just need to drop it".

So really, to me, this was never a matter of liking or not liking SSSS. It was only a matter of judging it according to how Minna has always described it, instead of how this guy wanted it to be. You know, simple fairness.

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honestly I'm a bit driven away by the threats to find your personal information and offline, private life and use them against you, especially because I've had the exact same feelings that this person has expressed.

While me, on the other hand, I couldn't care less about that. So what if people figure out who I am? I have nothing to hide. I do understand and respect, however, that this is something which is a real bother and even fear to a lot of people on the internet, and I do feel uncomfortable about this on your and their behalf.

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People do this because there is discord growing and they are trying to nip it in the bud.

I'm sorry, but I don't understand how this is supposed to work :( How is telling someone to quit talking about a subject they obviously still care about, supposed to reduce discontent? It seems to me that on the contrary, it's far more likely to increase the discord, because now those people feel like they are being silenced on top of being invested. This is how resentment is created, and resentment is never a good thing to promote in a community, in my experience.

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This thread isn't a comfort corner, it was an announcement, and if you're upset and emotional (which is entirely understandable), that thread might be a better place to express your feelings

1. I'm not upset. I'm confused. I'm trying to understand things that I know I'm ignorant about.

2. I really don't want to sound mean by saying this, but the idea of getting comfort (let alone asking for it!) from half-strangers on the internet makes me extremely uncomfortable. I don't even like talking about my problems with my colleagues, because I can tell that most of them are just performing interest and compassion and don't actually care, and it's even worse on the internet, where I don't have any body language to read to tell me who might be sincere (if anyone).
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Haiz on January 30, 2016, 02:06:32 PM
Can I take this opportunity to ask why people do what you did here?
Okay, I will explain. I apoligize if I was being rude or condescending.

I posted what I posted because several posts seemed to have had a very concluding tone, and it seemed like we were ready to move on from the Rude Person. What was done was done, and there's not much we can do about that anymore, and at this stage it is in my humble opinion to leave that whole episode be. But you kept responding to things as if they were directed at you personally. And I feel like it's really bad if I feel the need to tell someone to 1) get a thicker skin, 2) learn to let go, and 3) recognize not everything is about you. Because I am 100% guilty in all of these offences. I'm trying to say that obsessing over what someone (who you don't know or even care about) on the internet said for a longer period of time is NOT. WORTH. IT. and i say it because i've been there. I hold a million grudges and I am a bitter person and I have an inability to shut up, but i've learnt that some times it's best to just let go. I say what I mean - it's not worth it. Save confrontation for times it will help. pick your battles. save your energy. i don't know what more i can say about it.

you had your reasons for reacting as you did, so might the other person have. maybe they had a terrible day and were letting off steam, maybe they compulsively lash out thanks to past experiences! that doesn't have to justify rudeness, but they didn't seem to intentionally cause any damage except for being, well, unpleasant to talk to. it doesn't qualify for a witch hunt or doxxing.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Curry on January 30, 2016, 02:38:48 PM
Aaaaalright I really don't know what the purpose of this conversation is or what you're looking for? And I really don't want to continue talking about this, but it's rude to just not reply to people, but. Consider this my last response before I disappear for another week or so lmao

Spoiler: just a lot of text • show

quotes don't work under spoilers so bear with my obnoxious bolding here ahaa

In my case, it had nothing to do with my love for SSSS. I've occasionally taken similar stands about works I don't like (like Twilight or 50 Shades - no offense meant to people who like them, they are just really not my thing): dislike a work all you want, but when it comes to judging it (which this guy was doing), then judge it on its own merits and according to what it pretends to be, not according to what you wish it were.

I've also been on the other side of this problem: complaining about how a manga I used to follow was evolving, because its second chapter (an extended flashback) had led me to believe that it was going to be something vastly different from what its author is actually interested in. Once I realised that I was basing my assumptions on a false premise (that the second chapter was intended to modulate the mood and plot established in the first chapter), it became a simple matter of, "Oh, well in that case, this manga is not my cup of tea and I just need to drop it".

So really, to me, this was never a matter of liking or not liking SSSS. It was only a matter of judging it according to how Minna has always described it, instead of how this guy wanted it to be. You know, simple fairness.


Ok, he's allowed to have that idea. We've been over this over and over again all throughout this thread. I personally don't see his opinion as particularly rude (just his manner). There's nothing more I can say here that hasn't been said already.


I'm sorry, but I don't understand how this is supposed to work :( How is telling someone to quit talking about a subject they obviously still care about, supposed to reduce discontent? It seems to me that on the contrary, it's far more likely to increase the discord, because now those people feel like they are being silenced on top of being invested. This is how resentment is created, and resentment is never a good thing to promote in a community, in my experience.


There is increased resentment because the conversation is going on and on unnecessarily and a lot of people don't see the reason for the reaction against this person. There's not even consensus if he's a troll or not. We've had very heated discussions before in this community and after leaving them be, things have smoothed over. There's inevitably going to be resentment because nobody is exactly the same and communities aren't homogenous, but harping on a subject will only bring up the discord more because it really doesn't seem like people on this thread are changing their minds on anything


1. I'm not upset. I'm confused. I'm trying to understand things that I know I'm ignorant about.

2. I really don't want to sound mean by saying this, but the idea of getting comfort (let alone asking for it!) from half-strangers on the internet makes me extremely uncomfortable. I don't even like talking about my problems with my colleagues, because I can tell that most of them are just performing interest and compassion and don't actually care, and it's even worse on the internet, where I don't have any body language to read to tell me who might be sincere (if anyone).


1. Sorry, you mentioned people being upset and emotional in the message I quoted, and it seemed that the only person who was very invested in this was you, so I assumed that you had feelings you wanted to talk over.

2. don't worry, there's no pressure to use it, and i kind of feel the same way, but a lot of people on this forum find it very useful so I just thought it might be good to throw that out there
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: Aliax on January 30, 2016, 04:22:45 PM
But you kept responding to things as if they were directed at you personally.

Oh, so this is where the problem was! Well then, I apologise for whatever I did which made you think that I was taking anything personally, because at no point did I think anything was directed at me personally. I mentioned stuff that happened to me, or explained the way I think, sure, but these were only meant as examples in a broader discussion, nothing more. I never thought about any of this as being about me. I only keep replying because I'm interested in the various general topics of the discussion, such as, "What counts as troll behaviour vs. rude behaviour?", "What can reasonably be expected of people when they are confronted to something which upsets them?", and so on.

As a rule, I won't say that I never take things personally without being aware of it, but it's really rare. It pretty much only happens when I get triggered and I don't realise it. You can rather safely assume that, if I don't outright say that I'm taking something personally because it's a topic that's sensitive to me, then there's a 95% likelihood that I'm not taking it personally. In fact, I've been FAR more often accused of discussing topics in a too dispassionate way, than of taking things personally ;) As in, "This is something that matters to a lot of people, you know, it's not just some theoretical discussion!"

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Aaaaalright I really don't know what the purpose of this conversation is or what you're looking for?

Nothing in particular? As far as I'm concerned, the purpose of a conversation is simply to discuss things: sharing knowledge, exchanging opinions and points of view, and when lucky, expanding understanding. I'm sorry if my way of having conversations upset you :( I apologise.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: viola on January 30, 2016, 04:53:06 PM
Just a reminder, if people are unable to keep this discussion amicable we will have to lock the thread.

Also to be clear, any and all threats made by forum members towards other forum members will not be tolerated.
Title: Re: Disqus, infected
Post by: viola on January 30, 2016, 08:49:27 PM
Due to rising tensions and the atmosphere of the comments in this thread, I have had several requests from various users to lock this thread, therefore it will be locked while we discuss whether to move it or keep it locked in the future.